EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

when everything is going well in our life,why do we still feel lonely???why do  we again go back to flash back and sit thinking "How Some people came into our  life" .You know right away that they were meant to be here to serve some  purpose of our life,teach us a lesson or help figure out who you are  or who you want to be, you never know who these people may be but you lock eyes wid them you know that very moment that they'll affect your life in some profound way.sometimes things seem horrible,painful&unfair....but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you  would  never realize your potential strength.Everything happens 4 a reason,nothing happens by chance or by means of luck.Illness,love lost moments of true grateness&sheer stupidity all occur to test limits of ur soul,Without these small tests life would  be like a smooth paved,straight,flat road ....nowhere safe & uncomfortable but sheer dull & utterly pointless.

Your depression,your pain, your sufferings are cannot be healed by any individual .. its a hard word but that is true .Never spoil anyone's moments by showing hi/her your own problems and short comings.Instead create such a funny moments that when ever you look back at them,they should be cherish able...let go any memory that lets your spirit down..that reminds you of your failure.
Be a child..do everything full heatedly..when you laugh you don't think about your status , when you fail try again differently..don't portray yourself what you are not actually....YOU ARE A PEACEFUL SOUL , NOTHING ELSE...ANXIETY ? PAIN ? we have made all these...one who succeeds does so because he did the thing with love.Don't imitate..be genuine.Money,luxury ,that artificial smile on our face....ok.!!!  but happiness?????instead just for a while a while think of the days you played in the streets..quarelled with friends for a chocolate...cried for losing a silly game...SEE YOU ARE SMILING....!!! :):)
DON'T do what every one is doing...do what your heart says...and what you decide to do . do such that even GOD feels proud of you...break all bondage..walk that extra mile...
Most people believe controlling the mind means holding themselves back and denying yourself freedom. They feel that controlling their mind is not natural, and that it is some sort of repression.it is not so my friend,...........
ask yourself..DO YOU WANT TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE ?

if the answer is "YES" ,...the only way to do that is to take control of your mind, your thoughts, your goal.A restless mind, scattered thoughts and unclear goal....its very very hard to succeed.When our mind is focused, our energies are not dissipated on irrelevant activities or thoughts. Develop concentration. Without it, our efforts get scattered, Its true that,Thoughts claim our attention incessantly, and we  waste our time and energy on unimportant and useless matters. Thoughts actually rule our life. We have become so used to this slavery, that we take it for granted, and have become unconscious of this habit.
Develop that Inner resistance, train our minds not to accept and see anything you don't want to.... at first concentration may seem a very strenuous and tiring activity, and that it involves exertion and tension, which is both difficult and unpleasant.
Just try for 2 weeks , not to think negative, not to fear of failure, any thing you do try to look into what you learn from that very thing....try to make yourself satisfied rather than trying to satisfying the world...try to succeed.. if you can't think that it wasn't your cup of coffee....don't be jealous or keep grudge against someone...do what you can without thinking what others did...just two weeks ... the whole world will seem  so different to you...such is the power of self control

*Here is what you can gain by developing this power:*
-Control of your thoughts.
-The ability to focus your mind.
-Peace of mind.
-Freedom from futile and annoying thoughts.
-The ability to choose your thoughts.
-Better memory.
-Self-confidence.
-Inner strength.
-Will power.
-Decisiveness.
-The ability to study and comprehend more quickly.
-Inner happiness.
-Enhanced capability to develop psychic abilities.
-More powerful and efficient use of creative visualization.
-Enhanced ability to meditate.

depression comes from frustration, frustration comes from failure,failure comes from fear of failure, fear of failure comes from not having belief in your self,self dis-belief comes from trying to do something what you are not or trying to imitate others or simply due to jealousy seeing others succeed.   root out that deep routed cause.. be yourself.
do thing you feel proud to do..and focus....You will feel a new form of consciousness growing in you, bringing you peace of mind. Restlessness may come every now and then , keep them away with your good thoughts,.....in due time and continuous practice calmness will grow and fill you completely. You will be able to make the mind work for you when you need its services, in a most efficient way. You will be able to silence it when its services are  not needed.

I assure you, from personal experience, that the attitude to life and the reactions to events change after starting to practice concentration. It is some kind of automatic and gradual process. You come to know many things about the mind and how it functions, and you learn to deal with it efficiently, both your  the successes & downfalls.
Be your own creator,create whom you are and whom you want to be...be the sculptor of your life, learn from each failure , each success....try to learn from everyone you interacted...the word "ENEMY" is such an alien thing...believe in yourself.
Create your own life& then go out & live it. Have a blast..
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ARE YOU A POSITIVE THINKER...

Instead of thinking about what you're missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results.Not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking.. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it. Among the people who accept it, not many know how to use it effectively to get results. Yet, it seems that many are becoming attracted to this subject, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it.It is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!", to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they do not know what they really mean, or do not consider them as useful and effective. The single attribute of positive thinking can help in making a difference to our lives and also to the people in our surroundings.

How can you over come this?
Always visualize only favorable and beneficial situations. Use positive words in your inner dialogues or when talking with others. Smile a little more, as this helps to think positively. Disregard any feelings of laziness or a desire to quit. If you persevere, you will transform the way your mind thinks.

It is important to identify negative thoughts as soon as they appear on the surface and bury them before they start taking root.Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it and endeavor to replace it with a constructive one. The negative thought will try again to enter your mind, and then you have to replace it again with a positive one. It is as if there are two pictures in front of you, and you choose to look at one of them and disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts.In case you feel any inner resistance when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good and happy thoughts in your mind.

It does not matter what your circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances will change accordingly. It may take some time for the changes to take place, but eventually they do.

Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?

Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?

Remember that,When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn
finally ,what you think of yourself is more important than,what others think of you,As it is said "the maximum time you will have to spend in your life is with YOURSELF..So make yourself as interesting as possible.

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“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”









                                                      

No More Depression!!!

“...Depression is not sobbing and crying and giving vent, it is plain and simple reduction of feeling...People who keep stiff upper lips find that it's damn hard to smile.”

Now a days depression is very common in teenagers ,when they have to really enjoy their life,They just love to stay alone,may be due to love failure,or defeat in life or may be sudden death of dear ones.But friends,just think when you are depressed what your parents might go through,who have bought you up so sweetly,when ever you are depressed,think of your parent,or your loved ones who really need you,even if you hide your tears in front of them,they can recognize you,As their  true heart LOVES YOU

                                                                                  Whenever you are depressed do you  think of disappearing,or do you think to shut yourself off closing  doors  to keep people out. That could mean isolating you in a quiet place,avoiding everyone. Or it could mean being with friends and family but emotionally uninvolved, feeling more like an observer of a scene than a participant. Even when you were  with them, you wasn’t really there at all."

there may be other reasons too like:Losing Memory.

Refusing Support.etc....

Now  you can come out of depression..
with a little effort,Wanna try it:):)
So,Friends when ever you are depressed,try to read a book,Which will really motivate you,Or speak to your friends why is the  reason that you are so low,try to communicate with your friends through social networking sites,make new friends,learn to share your problems may be you might come out with good solution,and when you speak out the things you will feel relaxed.or if you think ,You cant share the things than just pen it down in a diary,listen to your favorite music. 
By keeping sorrow in your heart ,YOU wont solve any of your
problems ,It will just spoil your health.

Instead ,always think: You are living your life for your sake not for others,If your lover leaves you and go,it doesn't mean that he is bad,its just his story is over in your life,Or may be god has some better plans for you.When ever your broken think of your parents,first they are worried,that how her daughter would survive in this world,later don't make them regret by your mistakes. Always spread happiness,You will feel its big and precious,try to update your status in the social networking sites,friends will reward you,and you will feel great even in small achievements

OR
 Just mail me ,even my friends might help you  to come out of depression
“The pursuit of happiness belongs to us, but we must climb around or
over the church to get it”
HOPE YOU ENJOY YOUR LIFE:):)

MY MOM ,MY LIFE

i strongly believe in love at first sight, because as soon i opened my eyes in the world i started loving my mom. In this world everything can be purchased or replaced. For instance; if we don't have our own siblings, we start believing our cousins are our siblings, when we break up our love we still try to forget it by searching another.However; friends remember nobody in this world can substitute mom s position, situationally we might have 2 fathers but there is only one mother for each child..!

I REALLY LOVE My MUM!!!!

I was not born very normal like you friends, god had blessed me with a special skin abnormality .Every day it would hurt my mom, but still she hid her tears in her smile. Now I really wonder if my mom was hurt so much, what about those thousands and millions of mothers whose child is born with a disability.

And now, i realize though my mom has suffered so much pain in her life,yet she has the strength to give me her shoulder when I need one, her advice when I'm lost, and her love when i need the most. She supports me with courage, faith and hope. She blames herself for my having to care for her and my brother but I'm thankful for every moment I've spent, because each one got me to where I am and who I am today. 

Well, I'm sure in your case, your mom would be the best in the world to you - even if you don't have any reasons why you would think so.. in fact, I just think all of us should make our moms the best, because they simply deserve to be the best for all of us,

As i joined my degree course, I had to leave my mom and go to hostel, it was the most critical moment for me to go.Then, i started realizing ,its so difficult to manage without her. when she is with us we only keep blaming her for not getting work done, but friends think is it that we are than her in any way?no way.! We cannot compete with her ever!!

My mother has a slender,small body,but a large heart-a heart so large that everybody 's joys found welcome in it,and hospitable accommodation.

Sometimes i think, how difficult it is for those who loose their mom,I realized this when my mom lost her mom all of sudden due to heart attack.

Sometimes I wish I could just sit and talk about her, tell about what a great woman she is. I could talk about her for hours, and days, and I could tell you the stories I remember and the things I know about her or the stories I’ve heard and continue to hear on occasion.  She is crazy.  She is fun.  She is loud.  She is competitive.  She is caring.  She is strong.  She is responsible.  She is amazing.  But most of all, she is my mom.  No one can ever replace a mom.  NO ONE.

Please appreciate your mom and dad.  It is hard to do I know.  I have the same problem.but when i went to hostel my views have completely changed , But I promise you hanging out with them, or fighting with them, or laughing with them…it is all worth it.  Spend time.  Laugh.  Live.  Enjoy it while they are here. Even though i m not with my mom, I m happy that at least we are under the same sky, I really feel bad for the people who are not under the same sky.I am such a happy person.  I am such a blessed person.  I don’t take anything for granted because I know as soon as you can have something, you can lose something.  I cherish and appreciate everything about my life and life in general.  Life is too precious to not enjoy every day while you can.My family is small, but they are the biggest part of my life and without them breathing would be harder, existing would be dreary, and living would be life-less.

Thanks for always helping me to remember what is important in life... and today it is you!

Mom..................You're the best! Thanks for all you do.